Buying Presents for Her (or Him!) Indoors

Penn said:

Got my wife a book about the history of Maltese buses. 

I got her some other stuff like an Apple HomePod and Watch but the bus book must be the best thing I got her.  She did her best “wow”. The one that she saves for when she’s really pleased. 

@Penn we first went to Malta in 1999, and the little old buses were still chugging around, about 12 cents a trip if I remember right...

I hope your other half enjoys it.  :)

I put a lot of (ok, some) thought into buying books he would like, then he announced “there’s a couple of books I’d like for Christmas”. They weren’t the same ones, so I said he could buy them for himself and I’d wrap them. So then I panic bought some aftershave and sweets so he would have more than just books. And a sourdough bread starter which he seems quite excited about. I used to buy him video games and dvds but now he’s got PlayStation plus and a million movies on demand, so it’s books, food, smellies or clothes and he’s a nightmare to buy clothes for.

We don't do presents, as such, we save up and get stuff through the year. Christmas, we pour a little extra money into good food and drink.

This year, I've mostly spent it on paracetamol, ibuprofen and tissues. 

Timcito said:

axisus said:

Timcito said:

... she had the privilege of never having to work a single day for money after the day she married him.

You say that as if it were a good thing, but women in the past were trapped in marriages where men controlled the purse strings and effectively owned all the money. I think that women should earn something themselves that they can spend on whatever they want without any negative emotions attached. Still, it works for some people, it worked for my mum and dad.

In my mum's case and for many 'modern' women, I think the option not to work probably had more pluses than minuses.

My mums big regret was that she didn’t do more with her life. She was a very talented pianist, and extremely talented with languages (studied 5 at high school, and was so good that the French though she was one of them at 15 years old when she had an exchange trip for a month. Mum was a housewife once she had kids and that was it. It can be an unfulfilling life.

axisus said:

Timcito said:

axisus said:

Timcito said:

... she had the privilege of never having to work a single day for money after the day she married him.

You say that as if it were a good thing, but women in the past were trapped in marriages where men controlled the purse strings and effectively owned all the money. I think that women should earn something themselves that they can spend on whatever they want without any negative emotions attached. Still, it works for some people, it worked for my mum and dad.

In my mum's case and for many 'modern' women, I think the option not to work probably had more pluses than minuses.

My mums big regret was that she didn’t do more with her life. She was a very talented pianist, and extremely talented with languages (studied 5 at high school, and was so good that the French though she was one of them at 15 years old when she had an exchange trip for a month. Mum was a housewife once she had kids and that was it. It can be an unfulfilling life.

I take your point. However, there's stress and an awful lot of BS that go with paid work. The non-employed women in my parents' social group seemed to possess a serenity that their husbands lacked. They also lived longer.